When many single people think about their love life, they’re filled with a feeling of deep anxiety. They have a craving for closeness, affection, intimacy, and love that being single just can’t fulfil.
However, there’s another way of looking at things. In my opinion, it’s better to stay single than to end up settling for someone that’s wrong for you, just because you don’t want to be alone.
No one wants to end up being trapped in a relationship fuelled by anger, resentment, and hate. No one wants to end up being with someone that they can’t even stand. Relationships are by far the hardest thing to navigate in life. It involves two people having to share their minds and bodies with each other. It’s an interpersonal bond between two separate entities – and that’s something that’s incredibly difficult to work through.
It involves a lot of compromise, a lot of tough love, and plenty of hard conversations and even harder decisions. These things are fundamental in any relationship. Becoming that close and intimate with someone involves peering into the darkest corners of their mind – and accepting whatever you find, good or bad. These things are hard enough when it’s the right person. When it’s the wrong person, a relationship can be an absolute nightmare.
With this in mind, it’s better to wait for the right person to come along in your life. The person who you can be yourself with. The person who you can be open and vulnerable with, the person who will always do their best to understand.
Being alone really isn’t so bad if you can change your perspective. In fact, it can be a really positive thing in your life. It gives you room to grow, explore, and work out who you really are. It’s necessary sometimes to have the space to be able to do these things. Being single is that space.
Being alone is far better than going on dates where you wished you’d stayed at home, or spending time with someone you’re supposed to really like and care about and wishing you were anywhere else in the world.
It’s much better to have the time and opportunity that being single provides than it is to become suffocated by a relationship with the wrong person. You’re like a flower – you need to be nurtured and given the chance to grow and blossom. When you’re single, you can do that all by yourself. When you’re in a relationship with the right person, you can do that for each other. When you’re with a relationship with someone that’s wrong for you, your growth is going to be stunted. The two of you become like a parasite for each other, taking all of the others’ energy and giving nothing in return. You’re not going to have what you need to flourish when you’re with the wrong person.
Be alone until you know for sure that you’ve met the right person. Until you’ve met someone who genuinely cares about you in the same way you care for them. Be alone until you have someone with whom you’re each other’s number one priority.
Life is short, so focus on yourself until then. You will thank yourself for doing so.