When was the last time you felt good? If everything you do seems like an effort and nothing makes you happy anymore, it is a sign that your soul may be tired.
There comes a time in your life when you feel so overwhelmed that everything seems like an effort. You see people around you going about their day and you wonder how they look so sorted. You, too, are strong. But your body and soul gives a few signs when you’ve been strong for too long.
Your soul longs for freedom, creative expression, love, and happiness. But if you constantly put others first and ignore your own needs, you begin to lose touch with your innate joy. That’s the moment life begins to feel like a drag. Here are x signs that your soul is tired and dying.
1. Nothing makes you happy or excited anymore
Everything that you once enjoyed—your hobbies, passion, creative interests, your favorite artists, music, movies, books, and the fun things you did with your friends and other social circles—seem too frivolous or overwhelming. You’d rather just stay home and do nothing. Even when you do go out or do something you like, you feel no particular joy or enthusiasm.
2. You don’t remember the last time you laughed yourself silly
When was the last time you guffawed or laughed yourself silly? How often do you break into chuckles or giggles? Not the nervous giggle that you let out under stress. But a genuine laugh that comes from a moment of pure joy. If you don’t remember the last time you felt tickled by life, it’s a sign that you are not yourself anymore.
3. Your old ‘self’ seems like a stranger to you
When you look at your old photos or run through old memories while chatting with friends, it seems like you were a different person altogether. The smile, the vibrant energy, the cheer makes you wonder how someone like that could feel the way you do now.
4. You feel lonely even when surrounded by others
To feel lonely when you have no one is hard, but what’s worse to feel lonely when surrounded by people. There is a sense of void that you often feel in the middle of your chest. It’s almost as if there is an invisible filter that just doesn’t let the other person see you and your feelings in entirety. You don’t blame them, but you don’t feel connected either.
5. You see no purpose to keep yourself motivated
You lack inspiration. Long before you began to feel this way, you found yourself to be motivated and driven to do many things. Now, nothing really excites you to take any effort. Work, family, friends, career, health—you manage through them by simply keeping yourself afloat.
6. You say yes when you want to scream NO
You just cannot bring yourself to say NO. Whether it is an unreasonable or sloppy boss who doesn’t give the right instructions or a pushy partner who doesn’t consider your feelings, you give in to requests and demands made by others without thinking about your own needs.
7. You keep giving but receive nothing in return
People come to you when they are in need. You don’t think twice to reach out and lend a hand. But you have trouble asking for what you want. You think way too much about how others will perceive you and you would rather stay strong than show your vulnerability.
8. You lie to yourself
You pretend that everything is fine when it is not. You would rather lie to yourself than confront people in your life. You are afraid of conflict at times, so you teak the facts with self-convincing stories that keep you stuck in your situation.
9. You spend your day doing something you hate
You drag yourself through the day with zero enthusiasm. You do what you ought to do because that’s just how things work. When you look back at your day, week, month, and year, you see nothing in particular that stood out.
10. You lack boundaries and people take advantage of you
You lack clear personal boundaries. You cannot stick to your beliefs; it is easy for others to change your NOs to a whimpering YES. Your relationship often has moments that violate your physical and emotional boundaries.
11. You have one or more toxic people who drain you
There is someone in your circle who constantly injects your day/mood with negativity. They manipulate you by using guilt and emotional blackmail.
12. You feel physically exhausted and weak
Does your body feel heavy and drained? Do you find it difficult to get out of bed and go about your day? Do fun, physical activities like jogging or dancing seem overwhelming for you?
13. You make unhealthy choices
Whether it comes to health, lifestyle changes, or potential partners, you make unwise choices. You find yourself in situations that hurt you emotionally and drain you. You might be in a workplace that doesn’t acknowledge your talent or with a partner who doesn’t care to spend the time needed to nurture the relationship.
14. You are stuck in a web of fear
You are caught in an endless stream of negative self-talk. Every time you want to make a change or something good happens in your life, you are afraid of negative consequences.
If you feel stuck in this position, reach out for help. Talk to a trusted friend or professional therapist. As lonely and difficult as it might seem, having just one person to listen to you with compassion can make a huge difference. It wouldn’t be long before you realize you can never lose touch with your joy and your soul never really dies.
Disclaimer : This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.